Apart from what the title may be implying; we are talking about selfies for yourself. Naked selfies - of yourself. Let me start from the beginning.
I was talking to a friend about the risky business of sending scandalous pictures. Whether to a FWB, girlfriend/boyfriend or partner, it's a risky engagement. But, let's be honest here, we all do it at some point. It's 2017, and the rules of engagement are vigorously changing.
The topic quickly twisted. "Well it sucks when you take the best naked selfies, and you have no one to send them to... or at least who would appreciate it," my friend had said. And if you have found yourself in this situation, it sucks. I agree.
But what about changing the outlook?
What if the purpose is no longer trying to look a certain way for someone else? Straining yourself into a particular pose, while simultaneously holding a phone, all while maintaining a sultry facial expression... Just to get a reply from whomever you decided to send it to, that says, "you're so sexy." *inserts upside down emoji.*
A good way to start the appreciation of your own body and form, is to actually explore and capture your body. What pleases your own eye? A good way to stop comparing yourself to the next, is to know what you're rocking with. If someone can't appreciate your outermost queen, you sure as hell can. If we can learn to be sensual within our own skin, gaining the validation of others, societal standards, or that little voice in our head that tells us we're not good enough -- won't even begin to compete with the practice of self love in this measure.
My advice? Create a safe space. A warm and inviting one with some of your favorite music. Get your phone and allow your self to have fun with it! Whenever we get dressed up, its common now to say "I do it for myself, no one else."
How about dressing down for yourself?
This may seem a bit eccentric, but I think it's more important for women to be comfortable within their own self before they seek that kind of comfort within someone else.